The first time I remember meeting Sam, it was at a sorority bonfire and all of our sisters were forcing her to show the new pledge class (me!) her abs. Flash forward a few years and now I’m dating her brother, in love with her whole family, and consider her to be one of my best friends. The best way for me to describe Sam to you is to tell you that she is driven and she is strong. Physically she is so strong (she is a CrossFit coach!!), but her strength goes beyond that. I’ve watched her go through life’s ups and downs these past few years with an unrivaled amount of strength and grace. Sam is a badass and she is my favorite person to go to for body (and boy) advice. I’m beyond excited that she agreed to write a guest post for Classy & Confused and I’m even more excited for you all to read it!
Her post speaks on body positivity and finding balance within fitness and actually living your life. When she sent me this post, I was actually feeling pretty down about all the cheat meals and days without working out I had on vacation and I was full of body hate. Her words really helped me shut down all the negative talk in my head because I had a great time on vacation with people I love and I will remember that far longer than what my body looked like when I got back! So, without anymore blabbing from me, here is Sam!
Sam is a level 1 Crossfit Coach and nutrition coach at Crossfit Unknown Element in Clovis, NM.
Guest Post by Sam Wheeler:
My eating was really terrible this weekend. And drinking. Way too much drinking. But today for whatever reason, I stepped on the scale. It read a number I haven’t seen in a long time. I immediately thought, WHAT. It’s time to get it together! I need to stop overeating and thinking I need dessert every night. Then I went to the bathroom and looked at myself. Do I look that bad? Can people tell I’ve gained weight? That cellulite wasn’t there last week was it? My butt definitely looks bigger and you can’t see my abs at all. Allll the negative talk.
I tell people all the time to focus on what their bodies CAN do and not obsess with what they LOOK like. But the truth is, I struggle too and often. I’m human. Some days I wake up and am confident in my body and who I am, but today I failed. Maybe I spent a little too much time on Instagram looking at my explore feed full of super lean women with perfect abs and toned legs. Comparing yourself with others is a WASTE of time. God made us the way we are for a reason and it’s our job to embrace who we are, even on those challenging days.
Unfortunately, we live in a society that makes us think we need to look a certain way or weigh a certain amount.
As a nutrition coach, I will always encourage every person to eat a healthy, balanced diet. Eat your fruits, veggies, and protein. Be active. I think it’s so important to live a healthy life and to take care of your body. I want you to achieve your goals, whether that be healthier eating habits and maintaining your weight, gaining a ton of muscle, or having six pack abs, I’ll do everything I can to help you get there. But YOU have to appreciate the process. Don’t beat yourself up for every little thing that doesn’t go perfect!
Chase your goals, but don’t strive for absolute perfection and miss out on living.
WHY do we believe we need to see a certain number on the scale? Or that we have to look a certain way? So, maybe I’ve gained more dimples on my butt in the past few months. Or a little more “pudge” around my waist. But lately.. I’ve been soaking up every ounce of life. I’ve had such a good time with my friends having great conversations, drinking wine, and yup, eating a lot of cheese! I wasn’t worried about how many calories I was eating or what my body looked like. I was too focused on those around me and enjoying the day.
It’s important to note what the scale doesn’t tell you. For one, it doesn’t tell you how much muscle you have. It doesn’t show that my legs helped me do 50 squats yesterday with half my body weight over my head. Or that they allow me to go on beautiful hikes and run around with my dog. Or that my arms allow me to hug my loved ones and hold a plank for a minute. Our bodies do so many amazing things every. single. day.
What I’ve come to realize is that balance in life is crucial. I’m so tired of constantly worrying about my weight and body image. It’s exhausting. Am I right?I heard something that really stuck with me on a podcast. “When you die, your tombstone isn’t going to say ‘Had abs from 2012-2014.’” This made me laugh in disbelief. Well DUH. It’s so simple, but so true. Our life isn’t summed up by our looks.
So yeah, right now I’m going to try my damn hardest to embrace the 5-8 extra pounds I’m carrying around. Because those extra pounds represent the nights with my friends of drinking wine and laughing till we cried. Those days that were just really hard so we ordered pizza and had ice cream. The trips taken that were full of trying new foods and delicious margaritas. They represent memories made with the people I love and not worrying about my body image at that moment in time. And that’s what life is about. Not just the weight on the scale. Let’s still eat our chicken and sweet potatoes and lots of kale. But let’s try to focus on loving and thanking our bodies for what they can do. Let’s remember that being strong and doing pull-ups is badass. Let’s enjoy those times of indulgence and not beat ourselves up about it. Let’s enjoy life.
You are a badass and you are beautiful, regardless of what the scale or society says.
“Perhaps, we should love ourselves so fiercely, that when others see us they know exactly how it should be done.”